Youngest brother is engaged

Last month my brother got engaged to the woman of her dreams.

I am just relieved that the lady is not mengada and gives us a headache. She seems to come from a humble family. In short, we adore her. The engagement ceremony was held at the lady’s residence in Ayer Hitam. Since Mother has passed away, I am kind of the next in line to place the ring on the lady’s finger. Our relatives are all in Kuching. Dad had to get his friends to come with him as part of the entourage.

The ceremony was quick and simple.

By simple, there is no extravagant backdrop or anything. It was something that we, the sisters went through as well. A short and sweet occasion. Followed by eating. Our side gifted the lady with a set of AlQuran and prayer garments, a rolled cake, a fruit basket and a ring. We look forward to the akad nikah ceremony in June.


Engagement Weekend

Engagement ceremonies are so lavish nowadays that it’s interesting to see that amidst the practice of sharing everything on social media – there are still families that appreciate and practice the ways of asking a girl for their hand in marriage according to the Malay custom.

We had the merisik ceremony a few months ago and it seemed that the plans changed. The engagement and akad ceremony will be done separately. Hence, our recent trip to the my BIL’s future wife’s house last weekend.

Of course the entourage needs to stop for breakfast first. We had Murtabak Cheese at one of the stalls along the roadside. It was a very very very long wait. Might as well have tosai at mamak tesco.


Ninie rocked her Wakanda fashion. She kinda looked like a Smurfette herself.


We had the elders doing the talking while us younger uns waiting to eat. HA HA HA. I mean, the cheese tarts and rice on the table was so enticing. My eldest brother-in-law stepped in as the spokesperson for our little group which was awesome. I could imagine my husband taking the same spot, perhaps in a few years to seek the hand of marriage of the chosen maiden of my brothers. LOL.



The ceremony was officiated by my mother in law putting a ring on my BIL’s fiance. It was a very simple ceremony. No pelamin. No professional photographers. Just us. In a way, this cuts cost. They could use the money to build their lives as newlyweds soon. This is also in line with not only the Malay culture but also the Islamic teachings where bertunang = engagement is best shared among families and small circle of friends only as to prevent shame if the relationship does not work out.



The Lovebirds

Then, we ate.

InsyaAllah, the akad nikah is in 2 weeks. This is like an equivalent to say, marriage vows in a Christian wedding and the Saptapadi in a Hindu ceremony. It makes the Husband and Wife relationship official.

Alhamdulilah. Congratulations.