San1 shi2 jiu3

Nowadays with the flooding of news and information on social media, one needs to filter their feed. I have been removing some profiles from my friend’s list on Facebook for reasons such as the;

  • Being inactive or have deleted their profile
  • Not having a recognisable profile pic
  • Pushy MLM gurus. I still keep the non-pushy ones cause well.. they are still friends
  • Having crossed to the dark side of medicine and is very irritating with their posts

I have recently removed a friend because he was accused of a crime. A crime involving modesty and privacy. I was appalled when I found out as he was a very unsuspecting person. In fact, he came from perfect family background. There seems to be a video of him committing the crime and the one who told me said that the resemblance was so uncanny, the location was so relevant and that it was too difficult to say that it was not him. So I removed him from my list of friends until an exact verdict comes out.

It worries me that although I think I accept Friend’s Requests from my circle who I think I know that they are good people – we can never know their true nature. What if they’re wolves under the sheep’s hide?

It is also disappointing for me as I thought I am able to read someone’s character very well. And yet I still kena kencing by patients, friends and family alike. Need to strengthen my psychological strategy. More reading. More application. More interactions.

In the meantime, let me just say a Happy Birthday to Minci. May she be spared from all the pain in the world. That she may remain benevolent and pure. That she may continue to advocate like the INFJ person that she is, always.


Happy birthday to me

Not many people know my birthday. Not many people remember my birthday. Apart from my family members and a handful of friends.

A few years ago I made a decision to delete my birthday information on Facebook. I know I have a lot of friends who love me for who I am but I was keen to know, who, among this near 500 friends I have on FB have me in my thoughts. Perhaps for something memorable that we have done together. No offence for those who don’t remember my birthday. I probably don’t remember your birthday’s either. It’s like .. I remember Suga’s BTS birth date but not Jung Kook sebab I minat dia lebih. but do I hate jung Kook? Tak.. suka je. Cuma Suga tu kita minat lebih sikit. Faham tak ni.. ha ha ha. Plus, it is exhausting having to say ‘tq’ to everyone wishing you happy bday just because you are part of the watsapp group.

I was also curious to see if I would ever get to meet and create new circle of friends. I personally think it is a challenge to carik kawan baru in your 30s cause most of us would already be stuck in the family social circle or the buddy circle that you’ve been with since high school or uni.

As expected, the birthday wishes started making their way through watsapp from my family and close friends. My family sent me a cake, flowers and a balloon. Then there were few wishes from colleagues who I was quite close with in my previous workplace. And their wives. LOL. The birthday wishes did not end there.

A new friend?

It seems that I have a new friend this year. This friend does not have social media. But this friend is somehow aware of my birth date and remembers it. This new friend sent me coffee, a slice of cake and a birthday note at my doorstep. Sometimes it makes me wonder, what did I do to deserve this kind gesture.