Monthly Archives: January 2023

Slap to teach

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When this incident made it to the news, I knew I had to watch the video. I googled ‘video viral coach tampar’ and a short clip showed what happened. The coach, a big guy, slapped two minors on their cheeks. That was not the only disturbing thing in the clip. There are some observations about this that I just cannot fathom.

  • The girls did not flinch. It seemed almost normal to them for a grown-ass man to just slap them in the face. It seemed OK to get hit because it was an act of love, an act of concern, to improve their performance in sports. This does not sit well with me because in the future these ladies will end up just like their coach, committing physical violence to god forbid, their children because they want to teach something. Or end up being the receiving end of a punch, a kick or another slap from their partner, their family member, or offending authorities – without a complaint because they thought it serves them right to commit such mistakes.
  • Some people side with the coach’s actions while quoting their experience of being assaulted in their younger years. They justified those experiences as ‘tough love’.
  • The parents of the kids forgave the coach’s actions. to forgive is fine since the coach apologized heartily but then to allow the coach to continue training their children is not just awkward but horrifying. It puzzles me more that the kids approve of this form of ‘coaching’ and still want to continue training with him. The amount of trust and reliance they have on this coach surpassed their ability to be cautious of what may follow. If this was an adult team than so be it, but this is an underage team!

I am glad the cycle has been broken. By authorities. At least for a short while.

For affected parties to reflect on why the decision became to such even though they disagree. To me, slapping and hitting violently under the idea of ‘to teach’ just doesn’t sit well in the current society norm. I am sure it is not only Malaysia that has remnants of this hitting culture. I saw a few scenes in KDramas that have this theme. Of teachers hitting their students in the face. Not so sure if it really happens in current times for in dramas they never really show what happens to the teacher that hit Woo Young Woo in the face when she asked about her eyelid surgery.








Kitchen clean up

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I was in the mood to declutter my kitchen today.

I collected all those white takeaway containers in one bag. Then, I put aside this set of white-blue dinnerware and placed it on the table. I am planning to give it to my brother. He just moved into his own humble abode at Salak Tinggi. I’ve also filtered certain tumblers I could give away as a present as they are still new.

It was a very tiring Sunday. I did not have much energy to cook for lunch. Hence, I ordered Mcdonald’s for myself and the kids. Mr Husband is working today. I did cook dinner though – we had white rice, chicken paprik and an omelette. Then, kek batik for dessert.

I still have lots of glass jar bottles to wash before I send them to the recycle centre sometime this Wednesday or Thursday. Next weekend I am thinking of working on the Guest Room.

Heading to Jalan Yang Kurus

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Having a BIG WHY definitely helps you in the weight loss journey. I have been on an on-off mission for this purpose since my first pregnancy more than 10 years ago. and now I am at it again for the year 2023. I have started since early December 2022, to kickstart the motivation to do so. Hoping to gain momentum in the new year.

My Big WHY

Better photos

I love taking pictures but ever since I looked like liquid paper or lemon on a stick, I do not take delight in such activities anymore. I’d be wearing a really nice outfit but it doesn’t look as flattering as how it should be in real life. Having said that, it is also very difficult to shop for new clothes when you’re petite and a bit on the plump side. Unless I have my attires tailor-made but who’d have time for that. It’s like the upper half of my body is an XL but my lower half is still petite, only with a bigger waistline.

This kind of explains my work wardrobe. I haven’t been able to fit into my baju kurung nicely and I have a lot of nice ones. the bulges at different parts of the body are distracting. therefore, I buy more blouses for my workwear. Let’s hope I can fit back into my baju kurung by the end of the year.

My brother will be getting married by probably July next year. So that is another motivating factor. You don’t want to look like cempedak. Or is it nangka? I need to look like the noona and not an ahjumma.

Better Health

I believe if you are mindful of the food that you choose to eat – you’ll not only lose weight but also benefit from the nutritious meals you prepare for yourself. Better complexion, stronger bones and an improvement in general well-being. When it comes to consuming a proper diet, you’d have to be on a calorie deficit to shed the extra kilograms. Exercise may help but 80% of it is food. As diabetes and hypertension run in the family, this also means I have to take great care of my health. I do not want these diseases to set in too early.