Art of War?

“Whenever you are confronted with an opponent. Conquer him with love.” 
― Mahatma Gandhi

It is inevitable to have a lover’s fight in marriage. Sometimes over something big, the rest over petty issues – like farting under the covers.


When I was in medical school, I came across this particular great couple. They are now happily married and blessed with a son. During that time, they have known each other for nearly 8 years. Yup, their love story started in secondary school.

What inspired me from their relationship  is how they fight. The art of their quarrel is so beautiful if I may say that to the unknowing, wouldn’t have known that World War 2 was on the brink of becoming World War 3. Such was the stealth of the matter that I felt compelled to do likewise in my marriage.

Despite the burning rage within them, they’d still hold each others hand while walking. The girl would still bring her guy drinks and the guy would still open the door for her. The give-away would probably be in their conversation as it would be limited to only the present moment. Sort of like,



And once the anger has cooled down, soon enough everything is back to normal and reasons of being angry towards each other in the first place can be discussed in a much pleasant mood.

Gandhi sure has a point.





Minci’s 101 on Anger Management

“Speak when you are angry – and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.”
– Dr. Laurence J. Peter –

Today, I conquered Anger. I was angry towards Mr Husband. Over a petty issue. Nevertheless, it still left me fired up over the situation. Instead of sleeping it off, I decided to utilise the power from Anger into doing my daily chores, amongst many other things.I am afterall, The Good Wife.


– hoovered our living space
– did the laundry and hang out musty pillows to ‘dry’ underneath the sun
– ironed baskets of shirt
– sanitised Baby Zeeqs feeding bottle
– cooked dinner
– scrubbed the bathroom

I would have done a MouseHunt if I had extra energy. Alas, by the end of the day my batteries needed a recharge. This is partly how I managed Anger. By accomplishing tasks/doing things.

Anger is negative energy. An inappropriate response to it, not only brings harm to the individual per se but also to his/her surrounding people and environment. Vandalisme, bullying, depression even are all consequences of Anger in which is not handled properly. Hence, the need for Anger Management. We all have our own strategies in combating this sin. This is mine.

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