I saw a reel the other day about a guy speaking his mind to a group of girls regarding ‘Advice’. He said the girls should choose their role models carefully and take in any advice with a pinch of salt. He said he feared that if these girls listened blindly to someone’s words, their lives would end just like that person’s.

Come to think of it – his words do have some weightage to it.

Social media is a free world on its own. Anybody can say anything using their own accounts. Thus, we see a lot of people making content and sharing their personal life experiences with anybody willing to listen. The aim is to share but to take it depends on the viewers/audience. This is where it gets tricky. There is no one piece of advice that fit’s all. There will be clashes of values confined by age, culture, religion, economic status etc.

If a young woman who plans on climbing the corporate ladder hears advice from a successful lady boss about ‘Keep hustling, don’t care about what other people think about you’ may seem right and motivating. If an adolescent hears this and puts it in her context, you might get a rebellious, argumentative teenager instead. Ha ha.

Not everything on social media is ugly though. There are still some old-school bloggers that I still love to follow like Diana Ishak. I tend to check in with her (=read blog) on certain issues and see if our values align with each other. She is like MY moral compass for what is socially and morally acceptable and not. So far I agree with most of the things she writes about. Maybe it’s because we are kind of in the same generation – not much of a gap. Then there are figures like Cik Epal with her ‘million international’ business and loving family. She appears genuine in her daily life and adventures. And then I got to discover new personalities too. My favourite has got to be this lady called Jaja. She seems relatable as she juggles her life as an entrepreneur, influencer, wife and mom of a boy and cats. One surprising and humbling thing I found out about her was that she and her groupie has the occasional halaqah session with an ustazah to learn about religion. Her groupie are not just some ladies but top-notch ladies who own businesses yet are still able to find time to listen to an ustazah on a weekend or so.

Jaga hubungan dengan Allah

Jaga hubungan sesama manusia

Jaga hubungan dengan persekitaran

The world is full of advice. The people around you will always want to share their life experiences with you. It is up to you to think about it, to pick and choose which advice suits you best.