Umrah 2025 – a short reflection

If you have the means, if you feel lost and weary, go for Umrah.

If you have the means, if you feel overwhelmed by the demands of duniyaa, go for Umrah.

Had I known the positive implications of doing Umrah, I would have made an overzealous effort to make the trip possible earlier. Even then, I believe that regardless of how much time one has and how financially affordable it is to some people, if Allah does not will for it to happen, it will still not happen. So Alhamdulilah, I feel blessed that I can perform Umrah this year.

The Invite

The famous narrative among Malay Muslims about an individual being able to perform Umrah is that ‘Allah dah jemput’. Meaning Allah has invited you. Often, I hear people making comments that it is this sacred invite that eases the process of coming to Mekah. To me, it came with a strong urge of ‘I want to go Mekah’. Never mind the endless Mastika* stories about sinners being punished in front of the Kaabah or of how Allah pays cash for bad behaviour or intent. My perception is that while it is good to take heed of other people’s experience there, it is still a personal pilgrimage with intentions known between him/her and Allah. No one experience is the same. I believe that we should not think of Allah wanting to punish us for our previous sins during Umrah. Rather, take it as an invitation out of love. He does not want us to stray too far from the Islamic teachings, and He wants to forgive us and continue to bless us in this holy journey and after.

[*Mastika is a popular Malaysian magazine that tells stories of how people who do bad things are punished in various ways when they are dying. I believe it has been discontinued for several years now].

Mekah

The holy city was everything like I had imagined. A city that hosts the ibadat of Muslims from various countries, ethnicities and socio-economic backgrounds. To some muslims, this is probably their 10th Umrah in their lifetime. To some, like myself, this could be our first Umrah. While I may not be draining my personal savings with this Umrah trip, other pilgrims may have sold their belongings to make this journey. The objective is the same: to worship Allah.

The keepers of the holy city know that. Hence, they accommodate the differences. They guide. They show the way. They made sure that the place is well-kept and clean at all times. They keep order in a place where millions of people come from all around the world. In Mekah, the first language is Arabic. Hence, the soldiers, the cleaners and most pilgrims will speak to you in Arabic. However, do not let that worry you, especially for English speakers. Somehow, you will get to understand the ‘well intentions’ and ‘kindness’ of people despite the language barrier.

My daughter was a frequent recipient of kindness. She would get sweets and candy from people of all ages. They were handed out as gifts to children so they’ll be happy and enjoy their visits to the mosque. There is no issue of allergies or ‘I don’t give my kids sugar treats’. You just accept the token graciously, only to deal with anything concerning it later. It is because matters like this are seen as something small since the benevolent act weighs heavier in the eyes of Allah. Similarly, the difference one observes in Islamic practices between the mazhabs here is viewed as normal. Somehow, it is fine to be slightly different in how you place your hands on the body after the takbiratul ihram because everyone ultimately worships Allah.

It is interesting how when you place yourself in a devout environment like Mekah or Madinah, you are automatically drawn into doing good deeds and high-quality ibadats. The rukuk and sujuds are slower. The surah you choose to recite is longer. The workload, assignments at the desk or business ventures at home somehow sit further down the priority list. Though dissociating completely from worldly matters can be challenging, the burden of it does seem small compared to your ibadat. Somehow, all the problems I experienced back home seemed so petty and actually solvable once you reach Mekah. That all the pending task back home is just another task that brings in salary for your living, having now a better understanding and confidence that ALLAH is the one who gives you sustenance. So, there is no need to rush through namaz. Or be reckless with life. Instead, perform more solat, fast, recite zikir and make doa more when given a chance to do so. I felt nourished spiritually. I am motivated to continue this motivational streak back home.

Physically, I felt so energised too. I did have a minor cold towards the end when I left Madinah. However, when in Mekah doing Umrah, all my headache, back pain and body tightness seems to find relief and loosen up with time. Maybe it was the Zamzam working its magic. I did read that it has an alkaline pH, rich in magnesium and calcium. Thus, explains the relief for muscle soreness. I had a lot of Zamzam water there since it is readily available at the masjid. We even bought it home via the Saudi consent given to pilgrims, whereby each passport holder can buy 5L of Zamzam for 12.5 SR, and it is not included in the baggage allowance. I was also walking a lot as compared to my sedentary life back home.

InsyaAllah I will share more about my Umrah in a subsequent post. For this trip, we actually went to Cairo first before to Mekah/Madinah. So that is a whole lot of story to tell in a few weeks to come. Look out for the hashtag!

November babies celebrating at KJAYA BBQ, IOI City Mall

My brother Matin shares the birthday month with my daughter. This year, we are celebrating at KJAYA BBQ located at IOI City Mall. I reserved a table through their WhatsApp number for 10 adults and 3 children. Children under 100cm eat for free, while those less than 130cm are given a children’s price. I paid a deposit of RM200 to secure the reservation. Most importantly, it is certified as HALAL.

I opted for the All You Can Eat 8 Meat BBQ Set. Adults eat at RM59 and kids at RM29. We were not big eaters. The portion was more than enough. We did not even refill our meat as they were a lot. The rice, kimchi soup, iced green tea drink, sauce and side dishes can be replenished as much as we like. The ice cream and chicken wings were served only once. But like I said, we couldn’t handle it. Thankfully, we are allowed to tapau.

There is also a family BBQ Set, a la carte meals and fried snacks.

I’d really want to try the Japchae and Jja Jang Myun next time. Maybe the Kimchi fried rice too, and see if I could recreate the same dish at home. The chicken wings that came with our set were delicious.

My daughter gets a free mini Oreo bingsu (worth RM11) with a birthday song. She was elated but slightly at a loss on how to respond to the birthday treat. The bingsu was delicious. To be honest, we did not ask for a treat. It was offered by them.

Kuching trip with my daughter – getting souvenirs, The Reef and the Regatta

I was in Kuching with my daughter for a wedding. After the event, we went to two places to get some souvenirs to bring back to Melaka. First was a trip to Kubah Ria.

KUBAH RIA

Kubah Ria is basically a market. My sister bought some midin, mi kolok and Sarawak Laksa paste. I, on the other hand, was looking for Chelum Chocolate Cafe. This cafe sells artisan chocolates. I saw on Instagram that it’s locally produced with very Sarawakian flavours. Thankfully, they have testers in the store. I bought the ones that my daughter likes, which are the ones with Sago Pearl and Tebaloi. The chocolate bars were priced at RM7/piece. I bought 40.

KEK LAPIS WARISAN

Previously, I have always gone to Kampung Gersik for my kuih lapis. This is someplace new. Honestly, I wouldn’t know the difference, but the idea of being able to watch how the kek lapis are made is interesting. Visitors can have a look at it at this outlet.

What’s more important is that I get to buy my kek lumut, kek belacan and Cadbury. They have the usual buy 10 free 1 promo, but I only bought 7. Cause everyone is on a diet. Plus, not everyone would appreciate the gesture of my bringing kuih lapis for everyone to eat at the workplace. Its availability in semenanjung has made it less exclusive. Although I do remember buying 1 loaf each for my colleagues in Hospital Jasin during my working period there. That was a long time ago. Over time, kuih lapis is just another cake to some people.

I did buy a few cat T-shirts for my husband and kids. Haneem really wanted a cat t-shirt. If I had more time, I’d probably shop for kain pasang with pua kumbu patterns. Alas, time was something I did not have.

Dinner at The Reef

Since we were in Kuching for the weekend, we felt that our chances of securing a table at Topspot would be small. Hence, my sister made a booking at The Reef. She put in an order for several dishes that were promptly served upon our arrival. Haneem really loved her midin, and she was able to finish her bowl of rice on her own! Good job.

After the dinner with my sister and her family, Haneem and I walked a little bit more to the Padungan cat statue. This particular cat changes its attire with the festive season. Since it is Deepavali, the cat was in an Indian outfit.

The Regatta

The Regatta and Festival Kraf Borneo was also happening during our visit. All this was organised at The Waterfront. So, we went there after breakfast on the day of our departure. We managed to watch a few boats racing. It was really fun and honestly got our adrenaline rushing too. The women with their oars and roars were such a beautiful sight. They were like warriors. The men, of course, were super sado.

I guess this sums up our girls’ trip to Kuching. It was too short and I look forward to another trip to Kuching again soon. Once I have saved up enough money. I really want to come during the time they’d play the Disney orchestra at The Waterfront. I wonder when their next show is in 2026. I really want to experience it. How fabulous it would be!

Kuching trip with my daughter – Abell Hotel and Jawhara Palace

My daughter and I went for a 3D2N weekend trip to Kuching to attend my cousin’s wedding at Jawhara Palace. For this particular stay, we booked a 3-star hotel called Abell Hotel. As usual, I did my hotel booking through Agoda.com. I picked the Superior Queen Room with a city view. Total payment was RM 429.53. Breakfast was included for 2 people.

The room has the usual amenities. FREE wifi, hot shower, a mini fridge and complimentary bottled water + beverages. I am most pleased with the Sarawak Hospitality. Everyone is so soft spoken and polite, from the reception to the housekeepers and kitchen staff. Check-in was a breeze as I had paid in full online. NO deposits were collected. I like that we don’t have to tap our cards to use the elevator. That is very convenient. I really love the room. It was so comfortable and cosy. The air-conditioning was really cold, but since I am Elsa, I don’t mind.

The location is superb as well. If you choose not to have breakfast at the hotel, there is the 24-hour Atmosferah Restaurant (mamak) located just in front of the hotel. Whereas to the hotel’s right is the RJ CAFE, which becomes so lively at night. Of course, this hotel is within walking distance to Topspot, The Reef and the many eateries at Padungan. If we had stayed longer, I would have been able to get my chicken panini from Bing and enjoy mi belacan from IG Ais Kacang, manok pansuh from Lepau, cheese naan from that famous place that I haven’t been to!! The landmark Waterfront, Cat Statues, and Darul Hana Bridge are all easily accessible. We were thrilled that the Borneo Cultural Fest was ongoing during our visit. Oh my, so little time with so many things to do!

The breakfast selection at Abell Hotel was adequate. I am delighted that they serve Sarawak Laksa too. That is a must. On the first day, we went to the restaurant at 0630H. We were early because the akad nikah at Jawhara Palace is at 0830H.

The Wedding at Jawhara Palace

Jawhara Palace is a house that people can rent for weddings or events. After breakfast, I ordered GRAB and arrived there within 15 minutes. The groom’s side of the family is in pink, whereas the bride in green. Haneem and I have shopped for our attire a month in advance. My daughter was really excited. The akad nikah ceremony was simple. Lunch was served by 1030am and the wedding ended by noon.

The next exciting part of my trip was getting some souvenirs, visiting the Borneo Festival and enjoying the Regatta at The Waterfront. This will be in my next entry.

Kuching trip with my daughter – getting there with Malaysia Airlines

I had a wedding to attend. My cousin, the only son of my uncle, who has lots of girls, was getting married. Hence, I feel it is a must to attend. I asked my husband if he wanted to tag along for the short weekend trip. He was not keen. Thus, it was just me and my daughter.

I booked Malaysia Airlines (MAS) because Air Asia has a reputation for flight delays. I couldn’t afford to waste my time on that, especially when travelling with a kid on my own. The return tickets were booked 2 months in advance, for which I paid a total of RM 904.40. We checked in online 24 hours before the flight. I also made a call to customer service to request a Child’s Meal for my girl.

Travelling from Melaka to KLIA

I used my remaining hours to claim the evening off from work. The hours were from my weekend task for the NHSI programme. Once I clocked out from work, together with the luggage in my car boot, I picked up my daughter from my MIL’s house. I have asked her to have her lunch once she gets back from school, before we drive off to KLIA.

I made sure that my daughter was comfortable in the car because it was going to be a 90-minute drive to the Long Term Car Park (LTCP). It’s been a while since I went there, and I was pleased that now we could pay with either TouchNGo or a debit/credit card. The ladies’ parking area was full. This goes to show that a lot of ladies are driving themselves to their destinations. So I parked just a bit further. Then, my daughter and I took the free shuttle to KLIA1.

Boarding at KLIA1

We arrived at KLIA1 ahead of schedule, so we had a light meal at Taco Bell. Once we were done, we went to the ticket kiosk to print our boarding passes and luggage tags. Our luggage was dropped off at the counter with ease.

Although our boarding gates changed, boarding time was not delayed. We had a good window and middle seat on the plane. I have forgotten that now, on MAS, we can watch in-flight entertainment on our own devices. I did not bring any headphones with me. Haneem had to watch her Mechamato movie using subtitles. On second thought, it’s better that way cause then she could read faster in English. I am making a mental note to bring my earphones everywhere next time.

Haneem was served Mac and Cheese. I chose a chicken varuval dish with rice. It was delicious. Then we had extra drinks. We had Sprite and Orange Juice. Haneem also received a kids’ pack with a small notebook, stickers, and stationery to keep her occupied. Well, she was more occupied with her Mechamato movie. The plane departed at 19:30, and we arrived 1 hour and 15 minutes later.

Kuching International Airport (KIA)

I wanted to use MAXIM, but the app was taking forever to find my driver. I used GRAB instead. The fare from KIA to the Abell Hotel was RM 11, and it took less than 20 minutes to get there. The driver was very kind to help me with the bags.

My next post will be about the hotel and the wedding.