DSAI is Malaysia’s 10th PM

Congratulations.

He was once described by foreign media as a moderated Islamist.

Honestly, when it comes to being a Muslim, it is either being one or not. There is no liberal, moderate or extreme. That is a label concocted by the West. However, since it is difficult for them to understand the Muslim point of this, we will just have to be content with such labels for now. What differentiates one Muslim from another is how they individually choose to practice their religion. To each their own but they shouldn’t justify their shortfalls by championing liberalism. Orang kata pandai buat, pandai simpan – if you truly want to uphold the belief of it is between ‘me and Allah’. Do not put it on being modern and up-to-date. Islam is after all Syumul. Having said that, we should also refrain ourselves from judging another person, especially when it is based on 1 question. I would be very uncomfortable if someone suddenly asked me ‘do you support polygamy?: It is permissible in Islam and the answer is very delicate as opposed to a firm Yes or NO.

One of the things I am looking forward to with DSAI becoming our PM is his ministers in the cabinet. He said that it will be led by technocrats. In short, people who know what they are doing, are experts in those fields. DSAI is known to be a great orator – it would be great to see him give his speech on an international platform. It boosts Malaysian confidence you know especially when we go overseas.

The parliament will hold the first assembly I think sometime in mid-Dec. Malaysians will stay tuned.

Itaewon tragedy

Perhaps the one thing I wanted to know about the Itaewon Tragedy is whether there was an organised gathering, a festival or a place where people gather together to have fun of their own accord. Meaning did people flock to Itaewon for Halloween because, at the same time, there was an organized event or did they go there because that was the place to celebrate Halloween.

I have to ponder on this question because it will explain why authoritative efforts to control or disperse the crowd were insufficient, late to almost non-existent.

A group of people wanted to have fun. Then, it became more groups of people having fun. A group of people decided to be mischievous in the name of having fun. Another group wanted to have just a little more alcohol to have fun. However, combining the different traits of the group in a packed area, being stuck, one would have no choice but to follow the rhythm. In a way, this tragedy also made me re-learn not to underestimate the power of hypoxia.

Hypoxia – lack of oxygen

Of how people can gasp for air beside you and you might not know. All of a sudden, the person just collapsed because they could not breathe. Honestly, the sight of seeing bystanders trying to perform CPR in the captured videos caught my attention. Of how short life is. One could have just uploaded themselves on social media showing that they’re having a good time. The next minute, you are on the floor with someone pressing on your chest trying to bring you back to life.

Itaewon is a tragedy because no one would expect so many YOUNG PEOPLE to lose their lives by being in a crowd. Dying not from the sharps of a knife or the impact of a bullet but just by being beside another human being with no weapons.

Forcing friendship

Even in adulthood, we learn new things about friendship.

As a parent, when I visit my own friends or attend any sort of social gathering, I tend to persuade my kids to mix and mingle with my friend’s kids too. Instead of just hugging their dad, attaching themselves to him while I’m having the time of my life catching up with the babes. I didn’t see it as something wrong. I thought it was just a natural thing to do. You know, encouraging the kids to socialize.

Until recently.

Ever since Mother died, Dad has been forwarding pictures of his friend’s kids. At the same time, mentioning facts, that I believe are consciously typed onto Whatsapp to show that we (the kids) have a common interest and that we should be friends too. Like our parents. Honestly, I wasn’t keen on the idea. I didn’t even respond to the fact that we have something in common. To me, it is like, “I’m sorry dad, but no. I do not have the obligation to be friends with your friend’s kids. Even though we are both docs

And then it struck me, my dad’s intention could be purely out of wanting me to socialize. Meet new people. Although it is very uncomfortable for me to do so as an adult. Maybe I just don’t know how to make friends anymore. Or maybe I am now pickier about who I choose to befriend.

In a way, this situation served as a reminder to me that despite my best intentions of wanting my kids to socialize, I shouldn’t also at the same time be too forceful of them being friends. I shouldn’t impose forceful relationships on my children as well. I can make the introduction but I should allow them the freedom and space to choose their own circle of friends and confidantes.

INFJ – the best time to call me is text message

Despite MBTI being a viral personality test, in psychology, it is not an accepted (scientific) method to measure personality. Even then, it is quite hard to ignore the accuracy of the interpreted traits of an INFJ. I hate to admit that if I were to read the above, they are all true.

INFJ’s may love solitude but I certainly have rich brain activity. I never feel lonely. I love people but I yearn for private space at the same time. I prefer taking the back seat and cheering for my friends instead of being in the spotlight. I love keeping things simple but intricate.

I found some cute quotes too – horribly true though

if you can make it virtual, let’s do that… or an email or something

Source :
https://narrowgaugebooks.indielite.org/book/9781709870019
source : https://www.facebook.com/infjquotesmemes/posts/d41d8cd9/2221306024836417/ ( if I’m not lining up to punch out, that means I had too many people for that week or the week before)
source https://www.pinterest.com/slm2204171/quotes/ (reminds me of the time I went to confront the headmaster of my kids school)
source : https://www.pinterest.com/pin/465278205251941504/ (you have no idea how many I have killed in my mind)
Source : https://www.pinterest.com/pin/506655026829473322/ (this is relevant for my FB posts too)
I have done the disappearing before. when I was single and not married. I drove at night, looking at the lights and ended up checking myself into a hotel. Alone. But content.
Kind of a like a chameleon sometimes…